Earlier I was pretty bored sitting in the common room of my dorm suite. Then found myself to be watching one of the NCAA elite 8 games (Butler vs Kansas State, and congratz to Butler for the final 4). Anywho during the game, I figured I'd blog about something since I was bored...well tough luck on me I couldn't think of anything.
Because of that I found myself going to Shafer Court for food. While I was waiting for my omelet to be cooked I sat around by the bar looking around at everyone there. Then the thought came...I know what to blog about...
I looked around the student body that resides in Shafer Court, I found all sorts of different people, culture, race, interests, beliefs etc. I know I'm already attempting to transfer out of the school, but looking back on the beginning of my first semester here, I made a lot of mistakes. Not necessarily that I regret these things, it was more like, my future at VCU could have been more likable and I might have decided to stay here and have a fun time. Here's what I ended up comprising what I could have done:
1): Instead of sticking to trying to be better friends with people who I barely knew from high school, I should have sought out complete new people.
Looking at this, I hung out with a lot of friends that I was familiar with from high school that were only acquaintances. Not that is necessarily a bad thing, but I came to hang out with people from home a lot more for the first couple of weeks. By that time in those 3 to 4 weeks, people formed their groups; and when I found out these weren't people I'd like to be that close of friends with because of differences, I was left in the dust.
2): Should have joined a Fraternity.
I came into college thinking, forget Greek Life, just full of giant douchers anyways. Well when I got to college that ideal completely changed. Sure some still fit that stereotypical douchebag kind of mentality, but I came to find that at VCU since there's so much diversity groups among kids, some frats were the closest thing to my liking of people wise.
3): My Ex-Girlfriend
We broke up because she felt like it was better for the relationship and the friendship. I didn't see her point of view then, I'm a hopeless romantic, I didn't want it to end. We ended up taking a break and then into about half of 1st semester then split completely. Looking at that, I spent too much time thinking about her, worrying about her and etc, when she was having the time of her life. Well as I did that, I focused a lot less on meeting new people...too much living in the past...and well simple as that she has found friends easily and now I didn't. Our relationship is a mystery to the future I won't get into that. But littles too late for that. Then again I think upon this and she's in band in college and has an opportunity there unlike the one I have here at VCU so friendship came by probably a lot easier to her, but littles too late and I won't dwell on this point.
4): Stick with VCU Club Lacrosse
I met some really cool people while playing ball here and I do miss playing lacrosse a lot. But I quit it only because I wanted to focus on transferring. This point can only get considered if the other above three points never happened. Because I would have considered staying here and sticking out with VCU Lacrosse.
5): My Roommate
Don't get me wrong on this, my roommate is cool, but I feel like I should have done more in searching for one back in summer. This ones probably the most minor point. I look back at all the potential roommates I had for VCU and I wish i roomed with someone else about now. My roommate is fun, but would never be able to be as close of friends as some other people and that's not what really what I wanted out of my first roommate in college at least. I look at other people I could have roomed with and we could have became really close friends, joined a frat together, sports, etc.
A lot of these points are a little too late now. My transfer app has been sent for months so nothing can change the path I'm on, there is no U-Turn right now. All or nothing, JMU or bust and go to NOVA. I heavily focused my transfer based on the people here. Well looking back, that's not that big of a problem, I just fucked up. I mean people here are different, but I never gave a good enough effort to make myself like the place. But, then again, should you really force yourself in doing something you don't like in the first place? Besides that, looking on this, even the people I could be close with at VCU, I would be changing myself a lot. Something I would not like to see myself be. Lastly I dislike the area anyways, nothing to do. Another thought is a lot of kids want a VCU football team. Well we maybe the largest school in VA, but think about the kids at our school. Our Basketball team is pretty damn good (Larry Sanders, LS1 I believe) and not every game is even sold out. Obviously there is not enough sports enthusiastic people at our school, so if we can barely fill 7,500 seats (of which only like 1000-2000 seats are students) how would you expect to fill a stadium of 50,000+ seats? Sorry VCU, but our school is heavily art, urban, and liberal typed to have something like that. I mean possibly the city can fill the rest, but who knows. Also we would not make it into the ACC or any D1 TRIPLE A division instantly...example ODU, our rivals, are only D1 AA...you gotta start somewhere small and expand. We'd possibly be able to fill up 15,000 fans however.
Anyways enough ranting...all thats in the past and it's just on my thoughts about my past. These AREN'T regrets, but just things I could have done differently and I'm happy on the path I'm committing now.
